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Shadi Kya Hai?

Shadi, Nikah, Vivaah, sab ek dosre se milte julte words hain, sab ka concept aur mazmoon ek hai yani mard aur aurat ka milap, aur life ki dosri inning ki starting, yah aurat aur mard ka ek pak rishta hota hai, jis se dono apni nayi zindagi start karte hain, dunya ke sare religions me shadi ka alag alag tarika hota hai, hamare islam us ka tarika yah hota hai ki mard kisi aurat se 2 gawahon ki maujoodgi me yah kahe: main ne tum se nikah kia, aur aurat us is nikah ko qabool kar le, bas isi par shadi ho jati hai, is nikah ke badle me mard ke liye zaruri hai ki wah aurat ko kuchh rupees ya jewelry ogairah de, us ko mahr kahte hain shadi aur nikah ke liye mahr zaruri hota hai.

Shadi Karne Ki Sahi Age

Shadi karne ki perfect 18 se 25 saal tak hai, jab ladka aur ladki 18+ ke ho jayen to un parents ko un ki shadi kar deni chahiye, tajurbekar log batate hain ki 25 saal ke andar shadi ho jani chahiye, kyun us ke baad shadi me der karne se husband and wife ke liye bahut se masayel khade ho jate, for example: bachche jaldi paida nahi hote, agar ho bhi jayen to wah kamzor hote hain, aur sab se important cheez yah ki shadi ka jo asal maqsad hai yani mard aur aurat ka milap wah der me shadi hone ki wajah se achchi tarah se pura nahi hota, so guys mai aap se yahi kahon ga ki agar aap 21+ old ke ho gaye hon, aur aap apne pairon par khade ho gaye hon to aap shadi me der nahi karni chahiye.  

Life Partner Ki Zarurat

Allah tala ne insan ki zarurat ke liye world me bahut sari cheezon ko banaya hai, jin ko hum any time use karte hain, in me se kuchh cheezen hamare khane pine se related hain, aur khuchh hamare odhne bichhne aur chalne phirne se related hain, agar in me se koyi cheez hum ko hamare time par na mile to hum pareshan ho jate hain, aur badi se badi qeemat par us hasil karne ke liye try karte rahte hain, in me se sari cheezen for example: khanae peene ki cheezen, rahne ke li homes, pahnne ke liye kapde, safar karne ke liye,cars buses, trains otherwise, yah sab aisi cheezen hain jo hamari body ko aaram pahochati hain, aur hamare kaam ko aasan karti hain.

in sab cheezon ke baad bhi aadmi apne andar ek kami mahsoos karta hai, us ki life adhuri hoti hai, us ki rooh bechain rahti hai, to is kami ko door karne ke liye allah ne aurat ko banaya hai, jis se hum ko roohani sukoon milta hai, aur hamari zindagi khushgawar ho jati hai, Quran Pak ki ek aayet me aaya hai:

{وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُمْ مِنْ أَنْفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُمْ مَوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً إِنَّ فِي ذَلِكَ لَآيَاتٍ لِقَوْمٍ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ } [الروم: 21]

Translation: Aur allah ki nishaniyon me se ek nishani yah bhi hai ki us ne tumhare liye biwiyon ko banaya, taki tum un se skoon hasil karo, aur us ne tumhare beech ulfat o mohabbat aur rahmat ko banaya, in sab me ghaor o fikr karne walon ke liye bahut si nasihat hasil karne ki cheezen hain. [Sure Room: 21]

In fact aadmi ko jo skoon aur lazzat us ki wife se milti hai, wah dunya ki kisi cheez me nahi milti.

Jis sokoon aur lazzat ka zikar aayet me aaya hai wah cheez jayez tarike se hum ko shadi ke baad hi mil sakti hai, is liye hamare liye shadi zaruri hai.

Aadmi Ke Liye Shadi Kyun Zaruri Hai?

Is article me hum aap ko kuchh common cheezen bataye ge, jis se aap ko maloom ho jaye ga ki shadi kar lena hi chahiye,

Shadi Hamare Nabi Ki Sunnat hai

Shadi Hamare Rasool Hazrat Mohammad (S A W) ki sunnat hai, ek hadees me aap aap ne farmaya hai:

عَنْ عَائِشَةَ، قَالَتْ: قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: “النِّكَاحُ مِنْ سُنَّتِي، فَمَنْ لَمْ يَعْمَلْ بِسُنَّتِي فَلَيْسَ مِنِّي”. (سنن ابن ماجه: 1846)

Translation: Hazrat Aisha (R Z) se riwayat hai kahti hain: Rasulullah (S A W) ne farmaya hai: “Shadi karna meri Sunnat hai, jo meri sunnat par amal na kare wah meri ummat me nahi hai.” [Sunan e Ibn e majah Hadees No: 1846]

Explication: Jis tarah hum musalman nabi kareem (S A W ki dosri sunnaton par amal karte hain usi tarah hame shadi ki sunnat par bhi amal karna chahiye.

Shadi Se Aadmi Haram Kari Se Bach Sakta Hai

Shadi se aadmi haram kari aur zina se bach jata hai, us ki nigaah niche ho jati hai. Bukhari shareef ki ek riwayat me aaya hai:

عَنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ، فَقَالَ: كُنَّا مَعَ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ، فَقَالَ: “مَنِ اسْتَطَاعَ البَاءَةَ فَلْيَتَزَوَّجْ، فَإِنَّهُ أَغَضُّ لِلْبَصَرِ، وَأَحْصَنُ لِلْفَرْجِ” (صحيح البخاري: 1905)

Translation: Hazrat Abdullah (R Z) se riwayat hai kahte hain: hum rasulullah (S A W) ke paas the, aap ne farmaya: “Tum me se jo aadmi shadi ka kharch bardasht kar sakta ho (yani wah itna kama leta ho jis us ki aur us ki wife ki zarurat puri ho jaye) us ko shadi kar lena chahiye, kyun ki shadi ki wajah se aadmi ki nigaah niche ho jati hai, (yani wah kisi par buri nigaah nahi dalta hai) aur sharamgaah ki zda hifat karne wali hai”. (yani aadmi haram kari se bach jata hai”. [Sahih Bukhari: 1905]

Shadi Se Aadmi Ki Nasal Baqi Rahti Hai

Agar aadmi yah chahe ki us ke marne ke baad bhi us ki nasal chalti rahe, aur us naam hamesha  baki rahe, to yah cheez shadi ke begair possible nahi hai, bahut sare logon ko hum ne dekha hai jo shadi nahi karte un ki nasal un ke narne ke baad khatam ho jati hai, phir un ka naam o nishan mit jata hai. isi formula par aksar log amal karte hain, taki un ki zindagi me aur un ke marne ke baad bhi un ki aulad kaam aaye, kyun ki old age pahonch kar aadmi ek bachche ki tarah ho jata, un ko bachchon ki treat karna padta hai, un ko uthana baithana, kahna khilana, toilet me le jana otherwise, yah sab sare kaam aise hain jo aadmi wife ya us ke bachche hi kar sakte hain, phir aadmi jab mar jata hai to us ka kafan dafan us ki aulad hi karti hai, aur us ke liye allah tala se Jahannam se nijat aur jannat ki dua mangte hain, so aadmi ko yah sari saholat shadi ke baad hi milti hai.

Shadi Se Bahut Sari Bimariyan Door Hoti hain

Doctors ka kahna hai ki aadmi semen ya mani ka exit hona zaruri hai, us ke exit hone se hamari body se bahut sari bimariyan door ho jati hai, agar wah insan ke sharir se na nikle to us se khatarnaak naak kisam ki bimariyan paida hoti hain, tajurbe se bhi yah baat samajg me aati hai ki shadi shudah log bila shadi shudah se zada healthy aur happy rahte hain.

Shadi Kaun Kar Sakta Hai?

Yah baat apni jagah bilkul sahi ki shadi hamare nabi ki sunnat hai, aur shadi karne ke bahut se fayde jin ko hum bata chuke hain lekin shadi ki kuchh conditions hain jin follow karna zaruri hai, un me sab se important condition yah hai ki shadi karne wala itna paisa kamata ho jis se wah apni hone wali biwi ki Mahar ki raqam aur aur us ke khane pine aur rahne ka band o bast kar sake, aisa aadmi shadi kar sakta hai, aur use in shallah wah sare fayde hasil hon ge jin ko uper bataya baya hai, aise aadmi ko shadi kar lena chahiye, taki use deen o dunya dono me fayda mile.  

Kis Aadmi Ke Liye Shadi Karna Jayez Nahi Hai?

Agar koyi aadmi kaam choor aur nithalla ho, koyi kaam dhanda na karta ho, aur na itna kamata ho jis se wah khud ka pet paal sake to aise aadmi ke liye hamare islam me shadi karna haram aur najayez hai, yah to bilkul sahi baat hai ki jo aadmi apna pet nahi paalsakta wah apni wife ka pet kaise pale ga, us se shadi kar ke us ki wife ko only takleef hi mil saki hai, hamare nabi ne bhi aise logon ko shadi karne se mana kia hai, aur haram kari se bachne ke liye roza rakhne ke liye hai. [Bukhari shareef Hadees No: 1905]