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Talaq har kisi ki nigaah me bahut hi kharaab cheez hai, koyi bhi aadmi use pasand nahi karta hai, hamare islam me jitni halal cheezen hain un me sab se kharaab aur ghatiya halal cheez talaq hai, lekin in sab cheezon ke bawajood kabhi kabhi us ki zarurat pad hi jati hai, jab husband and wife me nibaah ki koyi soorat na ho, un ke beech sulah safayi se baat na bane, un ki life ek azaab ban jaye to aakhiri raasta yahi bachta hai ki dono alag ho jayen, aur yahi dono ke liye better way hai, isi liye hamari shariyat ne talaq ko jayez kar dia hai, taki husband and wife khushi khushi apni zindagi basar karen.

♦ Sab se pahle aaye yah janen ki talaq kis ko kahte hain?

Talaq: yah arabic word hai jis ki meaning hai chhorna azad karna, aur hamare islam me talaq ka matlab yah hai ki: husband and wife beech me jo nikah ka rishta hai us ko khatam karna.

Is article me hum aap ko Quran Pak ki aayton ki roshni me yah baat batane ki koshish karen ge ki agar zrurat pad jaye to talaq ka sahi tarika kya hai? aur talaq kab deni chahiye aur kab nahi deni chahiye?

To sab se pahle hum aap ke saamne Quran Pak me Talaq ki aayton ka Hindi/ Urdu translation pesh kar rahe hain us ke baad talaq dene ke details aap ko batayen ge:

Talaq First Aayet

{وَإِنْ عَزَمُوا الطَّلَاقَ فَإِنَّ اللَّهَ سَمِيعٌ عَلِيمٌ} [البقرة: 227]

Translation: Agar unhon ne talaq dene ki than li ho (yani talaq dene ka decision le lia ho) tab bhi allah allah tala sun ne wala aur jaan ne wala hai. [Sure Baqarah: 227]

Talaq Ki 2nd Aayet

{الطَّلَاقُ مَرَّتَانِ فَإِمْسَاكٌ بِمَعْرُوفٍ أَوْ تَسْرِيحٌ بِإِحْسَانٍ وَلَا يَحِلُّ لَكُمْ أَنْ تَأْخُذُوا مِمَّا آتَيْتُمُوهُنَّ شَيْئًا إِلَّا أَنْ يَخَافَا أَلَّا يُقِيمَا حُدُودَ اللَّهِ فَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا يُقِيمَا حُدُودَ اللَّهِ فَلَا جُنَاحَ عَلَيْهِمَا فِيمَا افْتَدَتْ بِهِ تِلْكَ حُدُودُ اللَّهِ فَلَا تَعْتَدُوهَا وَمَنْ يَتَعَدَّ حُدُودَ اللَّهِ فَأُولَئِكَ هُمُ الظَّالِمُونَ} [البقرة: 229]

Translation: Talaq (zada se zada) 2 baar honi chahiye, us ke baad (husband ke liye only 2 options hain) 1 qayde ke according wife ko apne paas rakh le, aur talaq se ruju kar le, yani return ho jaye, 2 wife ko achche tarike se khushi khushi azad kar de, aur tumhare liye (husbands ) yah cheez jayez nahi ki tum un (wife) ko di huyi cheez (like: mohar, otherwise) wapas lo, han agar is baat ka shubha ho ki wah (nikah ko baqi rakhne ki soorat me) allah tala ke orders aur us ki limits ko qayam nahi rakh saken ge, so agar tum ko is baat ka dar ho ki wah dono allah ki limits ko baqi nahi rakh saken ge to un dono ke liye is baat me koyi gunaah nahi ki aurat badle me kuchh maal ogairah de kar husband se alag ho jaye, yah allah ki limits hain un se aage na badho, aur jo log allah ke rules aur us ki limits ko corss karte hain yah log bade zalim hain. [Sure Baqrah: 229]

Talaq Ki 3rd Aayet

{فَإِنْ طَلَّقَهَا فَلَا تَحِلُّ لَهُ مِنْ بَعْدُ حَتَّى تَنْكِحَ زَوْجًا غَيْرَهُ فَإِنْ طَلَّقَهَا فَلَا جُنَاحَ عَلَيْهِمَا أَنْ يَتَرَاجَعَا إِنْ ظَنَّا أَنْ يُقِيمَا حُدُودَ اللَّهِ وَتِلْكَ حُدُودُ اللَّهِ يُبَيِّنُهَا لِقَوْمٍ يَعْلَمُونَ} [البقرة: 230]

Translation: phir agar husband ne (tisri talaq) de di to wah (talaq shudah aurat) us ke liye us waqt tak halal nahi hogi jab tak ki wah aurat kisi aur husband se nikaah na kar le, han agar wah (second husband bhi) us aurat ko talaq de de, to un dono par (first husband aur yah aurat jis ne dosre husband se nikah kia tha) par koyi gunaah nahi ki wah ek dosre ke paas (new nikah kar ke) wapas ho jayen, bas condition yah hai ki wah is baat ka khayal rakhkhen ki wah phir se allah ki limits ko corss nahi karen ge, yah sab allah ki limits hain wah un logon ke liye explain karta hai, jo log is ki samajh rakhte hon. [Sure Baqarah: 230]  

Talaq Ki 4rd Aayet

{وَإِذَا طَلَّقْتُمُ النِّسَاءَ فَبَلَغْنَ أَجَلَهُنَّ فَأَمْسِكُوهُنَّ بِمَعْرُوفٍ أَوْ سَرِّحُوهُنَّ بِمَعْرُوفٍ وَلَا تُمْسِكُوهُنَّ ضِرَارًا لِتَعْتَدُوا وَمَنْ يَفْعَلْ ذَلِكَ فَقَدْ ظَلَمَ نَفْسَهُ} [البقرة: 231]

Translation: Jab tum ne aurton ko talaq de di ho, aur wah apni iddat[1] ke qareeb pahonch jayen to bhalayi ke sath un ko (apne nikah me) rakhkho, ya bhalayi ke sath un ko jane do (taki wah dosre husband se nikah kar le) aur unko satane aur takleef dene ke liye na rooke rakhkho ki tum un par zulm o ziyadti karo, aur jo aadmi aisa kare ga wah khud apne uper zulm kare ga. [Sure Baqarah: 231]  

Talaq Ki 5rd Aayet

{اأَيُّهَا النَّبِيُّ إِذَا طَلَّقْتُمُ النِّسَاءَ فَطَلِّقُوهُنَّ لِعِدَّتِهِنَّ وَأَحْصُوا الْعِدَّةَ وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ رَبَّكُمْ لَا تُخْرِجُوهُنَّ مِنْ بُيُوتِهِنَّ وَلَا يَخْرُجْنَ إِلَّا أَنْ يَأْتِينَ بِفَاحِشَةٍ مُبَيِّنَةٍ وَتِلْكَ حُدُودُ اللَّهِ وَمَنْ يَتَعَدَّ حُدُودَ اللَّهِ فَقَدْ ظَلَمَ نَفْسَهُ لَا تَدْرِي لَعَلَّ اللَّهَ يُحْدِثُ بَعْدَ ذَلِكَ أَمْرًا (1) فَإِذَا بَلَغْنَ أَجَلَهُنَّ فَأَمْسِكُوهُنَّ بِمَعْرُوفٍ أَوْ فَارِقُوهُنَّ بِمَعْرُوفٍ وَأَشْهِدُوا ذَوَيْ عَدْلٍ مِنْكُمْ وَأَقِيمُوا الشَّهَادَةَ لِلَّهِ ذَلِكُمْ يُوعَظُ بِهِ مَنْ كَانَ يُؤْمِنُ بِاللَّهِ وَالْيَوْمِ الْآخِرِ} [الطلاق: 1، 2]

Translation: Ai nabi! jab tum log aurton ko talaq dene lago to unhen unki iddat ke time me talaq do, aur iddat ko carefully count karo, aur allah se daro jo tum ko paalne wala hai, in aurton ko unke homes se na nikalo, aur na yah aurten khud se exit hon, magar yah ki wah khuli huyi be hayayi ko karen, yah allah ki limits hain jo allah ki limits ko corss kare ga wah apne uper zulm kare ga, jab in aurton ki iddat complete ho jaye to bhalayi ke sath un ko apne paas rook lo, ya bhalayi ke sath un ko azad kar do, (taki wah dosre husband se shadi kar le) aur 2 aise aadmiyon ko gawaah bana lo jo insaf karne wale hon, aur allah ke liye theek theek gawahi do, yah baat us aadmi ki nasihat ke liye batayi jati hain jo allah aur qayamat ke din par imaan rakhta ho. [Sure Talaq: 1, 2]

Talaq Dene Ka Tarika

Uper ki aayton ke translation se yah baat aap ko maloom ho gayi hogi ki agar husband and wife ki ek sath khushi khushi life na basar ho husband ko chahiye ki wah apni aurat ko talaq de de taki wah dosre aadmi se nikah kar le.

Ab hum aap ko yah batane ja rahe hain ki quran ke order ke according  talaq dene ka sahi tarika kya hai? aur talaq kis time deni chahiye? aur kitni talaq deni chahiye?

Aap log yah baat carefully note kar len ki agar kisi husband ko talaq dena ho to only 1 ya 2 talaq de, us se zada na de,  kyun ki agar wah 3 talaq deta hai to wah aurat us ke liye hamesha ke liye haram ho jaye gi, aur aurat ko period ki halat me talaq na de, period ke khatam hone ke baad, wife ke sath sambhog ya humbistari karne se pahle talaq de, is ke 2 important reason hain:

Reason No1

Hamara islam yah chahta hai ki husband and wife ka rishta always baqi rahe, dono ek dosre se kabhi bhi alag na hon, agar talaq ki wajah se is rishte ki tootne ki baat bhi aa jaye tab bhi achchi tarah sooch samajh kar shareef logo ke tarike par ho, jis se husband and wife ko koyi takleef na ho, agar period ki halat me husband talaq de raha ho to ho sakta hai ki wah apni wife ko temporary nafrat ki wajah se talaq de raha hai, aur agar period ke khatam hone ke baad baar baar wife se humbistari karne ke baad talaq de raha ho tab bhi ho sakta hai ki baar baar sambhog banane ke baad us ka dil temporary taur par wife se bhar chuka hai, ab wah us ke paas jana nahi chahta, is liye kisi baat par gussa ho us ne jazbaat me aa kar us ne talaq jaise important word se apne gusse ki aag ko wash kar dia, is liye aisi halat me aadmi ko khud par control hona chahiye.

Lekin agar husband period ke finish hone ke baad talaq de raha ho aur us apni wife se ek baar bhi humbistari na kia ho jab ki generally aisa hota hai ki period ke finish hone baad husband ko wife se humbistari ki badi khoahish aur chahat hoti hai us ke bawajood bhi wah apni wife ko talaq de raha ho to us ke is behavior se yah baat saf ho jati hai ki wah talaq kisi temporary nafrat ya gusse se nahi balki kisi important reason ki wajah se de raha hai, aisi soorat me us ka decision  sahi hoga.

Reason No 2

Mai aap se phir se kah raha hun ki wife ko agar talaq dena ho to period ke khatam hone baad aur humbistari karne se pahle dena chahiye, is ka second reason yah hai ki agar period me aurat ko talaq di jaye to jis period me talaq dia hai wah iddat me count nahi hogi, is liye ki iddat us time se start hogi jab aurat ka period finish ho jaye, aur wah pak saf ho jaye, aur wah dobara period ke liye wait kare, is se aurat ko takleef ho sakti hai, is liye shariat ne yah order dia hai ki period ke finish hone aur humbistari se pahle talaq do taki aurat ki iddat long na ho jaye, kyun ki talaq ke baad kisi bhi aurat ko husband ke paas ek ek second  bojh lagta hai.

Summary Of The Article

⇒ Talaq Bahut hi kharab cheez hai, husband and wife jahan tak ho sake us se bachna chahiye

⇒ Quran Pak ki aayton ke according husband agar zarurat pade to only 1, ya 2 talaq dena chahiye, agar 3 talaq de dia to us ki wife always us ke liye haram ho jaye gi.

⇒ Agar talaq dena ho to aurat ka period finish hone ne baad us se humbistari karne se pahle de.

⇒ Period ki halat me talaq na de.

⇒ Period ke khatam hone aur sambhog banane ke baad talaq na de.

⇒ Talaq dene ke baad 3 month tak biwi husband ke paas rahe gi, biwi ka sara kharcha husband ke uper hoga.

⇒ Husnabd ko chahiye ki talaq shudah biwi apne ghar se na nikale, aur na biwi khud se bhi ghar se nikle.

⇒ Talaq Shudah biwi agar haram kari par utar aaye, ya aisa kaam kare, jis se ghar ki izzat ko khatra ho, to husband us ko ghar se bahar nikaal sakta hai.

[1] Husband and wife me jab talaq ho jaye to aurat ko dosra kinak karne liye some month wait karna hota hai inhi waiting days ko iddat kahte hain.